weDONTgoTOGETHER.

 

yes people. its almost that time of the year when relationships magically fall apart. yanno..summer. my issue with this season is that a lot of you assholes dont even do it right! u cant wait until june to be like “oh this isnt working." or “its the summer i wanna explore my possibilities.” wammmmp. not a good idea. regardless of where the relationship stands in the fall…this is about that time that you need to be strategizing a possible summer escape plan. wanna know why she never let u fuck again after u dumped her? because u didnt do it the right way. a more developed plan goes a long way.

be prepared for the one question that you KNOW shes gonna ask: WHY?!

this is the part where u either pass of fail. now most of u simple niggas are probably thinking that u pass either way cuz u got freed up. SMH. the true success of a breakup is when she doesnt completely hate u.

the worst thing to do is to stumble on the reply. dont ever ever ever ever say any of the following:

• “its not u…its me.”
• “remember that night when u wouldnt let me go out? yea. thats why.”
• “if you love me, youll let me go…”

-_- <<that should be similar to the type of face u will receive after she hears that shit out of your mouth.

when THE question arises the best route is to be honest…almost. no matter what u say make sure u end it with something on the lines of: “ there are just some things that i really need to figure out. i just hope your still there when i do.” that should work for most. if not…she’ll prolly give up some sympathy ass every blue moon just because it SOUNDED like u thought the idea thru.

mind u…none of this would work on me. imma g. ill breakup wit u first. LOL.

 

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clearingmyMIND.

 

so help me understand how it is that people can like you so much yet act so indifferent sometimes? its crazy because i vowed to not bother wit any niggas after the still ongoing breakup (dont ask..lmao) with the father of my child. so he slips through the cracks only to disappoint like alll the others? this dating game is a real russian roulette kinda situation. as liberated i feel about being single this shit is for the BIRDS! i dont see how you guys do it! but i guess this is the only way to truly find that person that is for you.

what constitutes a good intro to an actual relationship? i ask this because i thought i had it figured out. the chemistry, the lack of those awkward silences, the similar interests? what happens when all thats there…but its still not right? or maybe one of the parties in question is totally down for the ‘lets see what happens’ idea & the other one is as well but …falsely? dont you think they owe it to that person to keep it real? to identify the hang-ups & figure it all out before one or both people are too far gone. (that was a drake reference for @Purple_Starship. i know shes gonna read this!LOL).

i think a lot of these issues come from past relationships. either we’re both still stuck on that ex or we constantly find ourselves comparing our next…to our ex. either way its a super bad situation. in either case its probably not the best idea to pursue that relationship..let alone any for that matter. you cannot fully give your ♥ to someone when you left a piece of it with the last love. regardless of how much you BELIEVE that youre over that person maybe your ♥ hasnt completely gotten over them. and if i dont know anything else i do know that your heart & your mind RARELY agree with each other. when they do tho… hold on to that person at all costs!!

this entry was more of an ‘excuse me while i get some things off my chest’ type of entry but if it helped or you partially agreed with ANYTHING ive said then its served a double purpose.

 

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offmyCHEST…

 

where in the rules does it say that the things that u do…no matter how wrong they are…should be overlooked. have u ever thought about the fact that maybe im irritated that it took THIS long for u to even attempt to get ure act together?! i just dont know what u want from me anymore….

we used to be good. we used to be best friends but now here we are…going thru this. know that if ure reading this that i have never loved some1 the way i love u---but im not gonna be a hostage in this relationship anymore.

either we’re good or we’re not. u make up ure mind & let me know. until then….its whatever.

whathappensWHEN….

 

a friend of mine brought this up & i thought it was worth blogging about. here’s the rundown:

she’s in a relationship that shes completely committed to…BUT [& there is ALWAYS a but] she’s recently met some1 who is amazing. they talk as much as she’s able  to & they get along great. he knows she is in a serious realtionship & knows & RESPECTS his boundaries.

WHEN THIS HAPPENS…WHAT DO U DO?

this is a very sticky situation but it basically comes down to these few factors.

• is this NEW guy really as great as u think? think about it. u just met him. youve known your boyfriend way longer-sometimes seniority wins.
• are u willing to throw away everything u and your boyfriend have built for this new person?
• is that new person on the same level [or above] that your boyfriend is on emotionally, physically & everything in between [does he have his life together?]
• can this new person “replace” all the feelings and emotions u have invested into your boyfriend?

of course i could go on & on but u get the point. weighing out all the pros & cons between the two will give u your answer. solid evidence always outweighs the heart in significance. who knows? maybe that new guy is the one. but then again maybe thats just that initial giddy feeling & lust thats clouding your judgement.

hope i helped.

*got a ?—i prolly got an answer for it. just be ready to hear the truth.*

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flyerTHANtheRESTofTHEM

so somewhere around 1pm today my boyfriend/baby daddy came by to spend some time with us. now usually he just will come over in some lounging clothes. its not a big deal becuz we used to live together & we have been together long enough that we dont need to dress to impress each other yanno? anyway THIS nigga comes over her with some fresh nikes, fresh fitted & a nice crisp new shirt--all coordinating. now when were going out he always dresses nice but this was random. i couldnt help but laugh like
'look at mr. fly guy.'
i guess i laughd becuz it threw me off. anyway he comes in like
'wheres the baby?' & i go 'he's sleep'.
so we go to smoke a blunt or two and he goes 'oh im gonna kick it with my cousin tonight thats why im dressed like this...i know u wanted to ask.'
damn right. anyway, fast forward to like an hour ago and im like
'sooo when u leavin?' then he get all offended & shit like 'ohh u kickn me out now? oh i see how it is.'
he's so funny cuz he came over here like he had other shit to do but he spends 20 minutes tryna con me to let him stay. waaamp. i love him but were tryn to work some issues out & us sharing a bed again aint gon get nothing accomplishd. right now im in the state of mind like ill do ANYTHING for him but we cant fall asleep together. lol. were working on it.

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